On 2.24.09, my family got the bad news that my Uncle Wolf's cancer was back, and terminal. It is fast moving, and there is nothing they can do except make him comfortable in his last months. He was getting monthly CT scans, and he was clean on his January one, but the February one came back with a growth under his jawbone. Initially it was thought that he had 3-6 months, but it's gotten really bad really quickly, and we're not expecting him to make it past March. He's on heavy-duty painkillers and IV fluids, and it's hard for him to eat because the cancer makes it so painful to swallow.
I wish I could be there, especially for my aunt who having a very tough time. She is trying so hard to "do a good job" for Wolf that she isn't taking care of herself, but how do you tell someone who is losing their husband that she has to take time for herself? I just told her that she is doing a "good job" just by being there and loving him...but I know it's not the tangible answer she's looking for. It's not the answer I would be looking for either. As people we look for something to measure our actions in all situations...unfortunately, this isn't one that lends itself particularly well, or at all, to that. Nothing is enough when a loved one is dying.
So I guess I'll close it out by asking for positive energy, hope, love, and prayer if it's your thing for my aunt and uncle.
peace and love,
m.
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